Hello hello! We are powering through this month and we are SO close to 2021!! Stay on the lookout for our 2020 wrap-up post coming soon and announcements for 2021 projects! As a reminder, we are accepting applications to our #GenZAdoptees team to continue the mission of Made of Love Not Genes! We invite you apply by JANUARY 5th at https://bit.ly/genzadopteesapp ! We have leadership and general ambassador/membership positions open, so be sure to apply!! Now, onto the purpose of this post because this person is ALLLL things amazing! We are extremely excited to share Tiffany Henness' story with you all!
Tiffany Henness - she/her(s) - Adoptee
Instagram - @CoachHenness
Birthday - July 10th
Who are you and what do you do?
I am a writer, founder of the adoptee influencer network, a creative a mother and an introvert.
How are you impacted by adoption?
I was adopted the day I was born.
What is the biggest challenge you faced that is related to adoption?
Disenfranchised grief and internalized racism.
What do you wish everyone knew about adoption?
That trauma and loss is inherent in adoption and that needs to be the default expectation and focus, not that is awesome or beautiful.
What have you done to support the adoption community?
Creating a place for adoptee creatives to collaborate and support one another. I'm also working with a non-profit that specializes in racial literacy to educate their community on the experiences of transracial adoptees.
How has your opinion about changed as you got older?
The older I get, the more adoption hurts and deeper I feel the loss. When I was younger I thought more about grades or boys or impressing my boss at work. Now as I focus on my own family and the inner workings of my life I realize that I had suppressed so much pain and never learned to give myself space to sit in it and move through it.
What has helped/supported you through learning about your adoption story?
Other adoptees. Listening and learning from them. Being in community with them.
What is your favorite lesson/quote you learned?
The one about the adoption being the only trauma that the whole of society expects people to be grateful for by Rev. Keith
Tell us a wacky fact about you no one would expect.
I am a licensed amateur radio operator, aka HAM.
Tell us anything about adoption you want people to know.
Follow adoptee content creators and support their work!